Decisions, decisions…
The last few weeks, Eric and I have discussed possibly looking into finding another OB. At my last OB appointment, we discussed our birth plan with the doctor. I want to have natural childbirth and, if possible, would like to do water birth… or at least have the option of laboring in a tub. My doctor was very upfront and said that he didn’t know of anyone that would do water birth in Mississippi. And so I asked him, if could find a tub to rent, would he be willing to deliver that way. And of course, he said no. He also seemed to become very defensive and gave the ‘medical’ spiel about how some things are medically necessary and if something happens, he didn’t want me to become depressed if things didn’t work out the way I planned them to. Of course, I understand all that… and if some medical emergency arises, I will trust in the doctor’s medical expertise. But I would also like my doctor to be supportive of me and what I want for my birth plan. Besides, I know God is in control and we are praying and trusting that His will will be done.
I’ve talked to several ladies in my community group and 2 of them have seen OB’s at the East Lakeland Group. They both were very positive about this group of doctors. My boss (and friend) Marianna said that they were all christian women and she thought they had more of a non-traditional mindset for delivering, meaning more natural birth minded. I’ve also heard from several people that they have tubs at River Oaks Hospital in Flowood. I’m not sure if any doctors will allow water birth, but at least it may be an option. And I want to find out for sure.
So, I’ve called and talked to some people at the hospital there and also the East Lakeland clinic. I have a consultation appointment with a doctor there on Friday morning. I ask that you pray for Eric and I as we make a decision about whether or not to switch. It really is a big decision, especially since we have to take into consideration the financial costs as well. But I am hoping to at least find someone that is supportive, encouraging and positive about what I want for my birth plan.
Frustrating…I know. I think it’s better to go ahead and find a different doctor now than wait. There have to be at least some natural friendly doctors there…even if they don’t allow tub births. I was trying to google some options, but I didn’t come up with anything. However, I did run across something about Bradley natural child birth instructors. We took this class with Luke and enjoyed it so you might want to see if you can find a class to take. I couldn’t find one in the Jackson area using the Bradley website…the only one in MS was in Meridian: http://www.bradleybirth.com/ndweb.asp?ID=S742
Hey! Candi is right. It’s better to fine a new one now that you feel comfortable with and is willing to work with the desires of natural birth that you have. Yes, emergencies can come up or plans change during labor but you can’t plan for those things. You should plan for what you desire and trust God that if things change then you are willing to go with the flow of what God has in store for you. I know you would like a tub birth but you can have a great natural childbirth experience without it if that is not an option. Praying for wisdom and a doctor that is more understanding and considerate of your personal preface:)
I meant to “find” a new one:)